Over the past several years, social media has critical massed itself 100 times over. Almost everyone you know is either on Facebook, Twitter, Linkedin, or a wicked cocktail mix of the three. This is the new world that we are living in, where information is everywhere and everyone has their opinion that absolutely MUST be heard.
It is within this brand new world where the rules are in a fuzzy shade of gray. Why? Because like most of the internet for the past 15+ years, there are no rules. To be honest, I like having no rules. No rules allows for self-moderation, and self-moderation can lead to an enlightenment of ones own morals, ideas, and personality. Unfortunately, there are thousands upon thousands that are unable to operate within a certain code of conduct within this digital realm that the non-digital world lays out in law and in societal rules.
Why are we talking about this? Well, because of that "gray" area, people actually think it's acceptable to interact with recruits via social networks. They think it's OK to try and get involved with some 17 or 18 year old high school student. They think it's OK to try and get involved in the lives of kids. This is definitely not "OK."
People, mostly grown men, spend their days trying to contact potential "program changing" high school athletes. Most of these attempts are "harmless" in their minds, but at the root of situation lays the problem. They justify talking to a 17 year old on the internet because they are offering, "wisdom," words of encouragement, and of course advise on where these kids should attend college. It's all innocent and good natured- right?
Wrong. Because it is acceptable in their eyes, it is also "acceptable" to chastise, warn, threaten, and downright get nasty with these recruits when someone else's child makes a decision about their life that they don't like. This, of course, is why social media has become a threat to college football- because it is not right to try and get involved in these kids lives.
The News Tribune in Tacoma, Washington recently published an article speaking to some of this. A lot of the article had to do with message board posters. As unfortunate as the negative comments and the consequences that they have on these message boards are; they are mostly intended for the "boards" themselves and are not a direct attack upon a particular recruit. That doesn't make it right, but it is what it is because for many years this is what has been accepted. We allow poison in our lives.
Now is the time to make the move to strike against this nonsense across the realm of social media. We as fans, bloggers, parents, friends, and members of a more decent society must make the stand against those that would use these platforms to "help" their school/team by chastising kids who may not make the decision for their lives that some grown adults would like.
We have long seen people "friend" recruits on Facebook and then leave nasty messages for all to see. We have seen people on Twitter harass recruits on a daily basis for them to "make up their minds" on the biggest decision of these kids lives. What the hell is wrong with these people?
Recently on Twitter, I came across some "fan" of a particular school cuss out a recruit because they "THOUGHT" that the recruit has already chosen a rival school to commit to. It was flat out disturbing. Equally disturbing was "fans" of the same school trying to reach out to the recruit to tell him that this isn't what this particular school was about- blah, blah, blah. They are all, in effect, trying to become recruiters for their institution. This is wrong, and also a NCAA violation.
Notre Dame had a decommitment last night. I am not on Facebook all that much, and I certainly did not "friend" this particular recruit, but i am positive that he has already felt the wrath of those wo felt betrayed. This is what our beloved sport has turned in to. A massive cat fight between fans, recruits, and parents of recruits via social networking. It's sad. We need to take this sport back from the lunatics.
I am proposing a set of standards:
- Absolutely NO Facebook. Do not "friend" these recruits or join their "groups." Facebook is much too personal. Even asking to be a friend just to follow what they say is too intrusive.
- If you are on Twitter, I think it is OK to follow a recruits account. It's basically public information, so seeing what info is out there is no big deal. However... if a recruit's account is protected, I recommend not following. A protected account needs the approval of the user, which is a lot like Facebook friending. Also, DO NOT INTERACT WITH A RECRUIT FOR ANY REASON. It doesn't matter if you are just saying something like,
"Congrats man! Eastern Michigan needed you and your decision just made my day!" Or,
"Our class is filling up! Still have room at Wyoming for great TE recruits like you. Be a Cowboy and be a LEGEND 4eva!!!"
None of this is OK.
That should be simple enough. Basically, don't interact with someone else's kid. Don't become involved. Don't be a factor- whether good or bad.
We as fans and bloggers can help clean this up by policing our own. Let's help create a culture void of this type of interaction. I am asking all of you to help spread this message. Become co-signers. Simply; retweet, like, copy and paste, link- whatever. Spread the word that this type of behavior is not acceptable. If you want to help your school ,these recruits, and college football- follow these guidelines and let others know that they should do the same!
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@BryanDFischer On that note, I do realize that not all people who follow recruiting intensely are like that, but I still think it's weird.
@BryanDFischer I just don't get following recruiting intensely. People who harass recruits are dirt to me.
@SLOcollegebeat If 12 Poly fans on a message board have to be warned, I can't even imagine what it's like for a school like ND
Couldn't agree more..... Goes to show you how pathetic some peoples lives actually are if they're harassing kids about a sport.....
I don't get these morons who are bugging these kids. Leave them alone. They are under enough pressure as it is. Good article SD.
They need to get a friggen life, unfortunately they are so lost this opus will be over their collective heads.
#CoSigned by Herring Bone Sports. Thanks @TheSubwayDomer for getting this type of reform out there. Too few try to ruin it for too many.
@hls_biscuit I know. Other bristol bloggers are not so blind
@thesubwaydomer wow, it's an SD Monday........ Now all we need is Archer!
@thesubwaydomer When will they listen?
@NDNation_PR #ndnation message boards are not good for my blood pressure! lol ;)
@oaknd1 #COSIGNED by the leader of #NDFB Twitterati
@thesubwaydomer couldn't agree more.
Nonsense like this is exactly what makes it so tempting for someone Urb to ban his players from the Twitter. I think its a huge overreaction, but I <GET> it. The world is complicated and fuzzy and we can't have nice things very often because a few loud delta-bravos ruin it for everyone.
@thesubwaydomer Your message to desperate fans continues.
@HJBosch21 You are absolutely right to think a 30 something man talking to a 17-18 year old HS kid on Twitter or Facebook as "weird." It is.
@Jcweaver2 Hopefully... NOW.
@ErinnGoBraug blood pressure or heartburn. I have to eat a whole roll of Tums after those journeys
@thesubwaydomer not interested in the position unless i can refer to you all as "my pretties" and call you my "unholy army of the night."
@LluckoftheIrish And it will for however long it takes. Any support is appreciated.
@thesubwaydomer But the meat market that is HS recruiting coverage is weird to me.
@thesubwaydomer I just never understood recruiting coverage. Covering high school sports is one thing.
@BryanDFischer Thanks!!! We're really trying to get this message across to everyone as much as possible.
@thesubwaydomer Amen brother ... I stopped by on Saturday ... Bad idea! lol #facepalm
@oaknd1 OK for everyone else- but i am The Emperor. No way around that.
@SteveinIowa1 Even more unfortunate is "Sean McMurphy" who thinks he is doing ND a favor by telling these recruits how much we need them. It only hurts.
@thesubwaydomer Good for you! It's an important message that I support 100%!
@HJBosch21 I honestly wish I could feel the same. It's a bad habit.
@thesubwaydomer Yeah, I understand why it exists and recruiting is obviously important, but I could care less about it ultimately.
@HJBosch21 Plus it makes people a LOT of money.
@HJBosch21 It's because over the 15 years, more people have realized that recruiting is essential for a program. More than ever
@thesubwaydomer It's a good message to get out
@thesubwaydomer Yay for being a college football fan without tiptoeing the line of creepiness!
@thesubwaydomer Yay for being a functioning member of society without tiptoeing the lines of creepiness!
@LluckoftheIrish See! You can be a part of the culture without getting involved with a 17 year old! Yay!!!
@thesubwaydomer I feel all official!
@LluckoftheIrish is a #COSIGNER